Monday, December 8, 2008

the phases

my kids go thru sure keep me up at night.

bud "e" is just filled with hate lately. i mean, maybe he is just getting his boy skin. i have 4 brothers, i know the severity of a little boy. they all kept telling me i lucked out with bud "e", generally he is very mild....

although, there was this phase in his early toddlerhood when he had to claw. just get his chubby little fingers and clamp them down on someone's unsuspecting cheeks for no reason. he was never angry when he did it, just curious.

one time we came back from a Friday night date only to find he had mangled the face of his good friend L. i mean mangled. blood all over and tears. bud"e" just had this dumb look on his face like "what?" (one time L made a small attempt at a scratch when we were babysitting and we didn't do a thing, we told bud"e" it was payback)

it was so bad once we were in the jogging stroller {aka kid cage}with both kids that we had to glove bud"e" s hands and tie rope around the gloves so he couldn't rip them off. he somehow managed to get our contraption loose, so we had to keep his hands tied to the safety belt. sigh.

then there was last year. the naughty word phase. whenever he got frustrated {mostly when he had to go potty} the words flew. butt, butt head, fart, stupid, poopy head, poo. i was laughing so hard most of the time i had to hide my face while on the timeout countdown. he has spent a lot of time in time out.

as of late, christmas is getting him down. i will find him with his head down between his hands and ask him if he is okay and he says "yeah, i am just thinking about the lego star wars i want for christmas, i want it so bad i have to think hard about it."

yesterday he woke up i a fowl mood. i asked him what was wrong and he told me he had a dream santa brought him the wrong thing and he was so mad ALL DAY.

reasoning does no good.

how do you handle your boys mothers?

time out is not working so well, he was in 4 consecutive time outs the other day and it didn't do a thing. i have tried taking away his toys but he doesn't care. i told him we would tell santa not to bring him anything and that makes him cry and i feel mean. even the letter from santa that came out of the north pole, alaska specifying how he should not act only worked for a day....

maybe someone could volunteer a deep voice with a jolly laugh and a phone call.....

6 comments:

Deanna said...

If you discover any secrets in dealing with boys, let me know! Time outs don't do even the tiniest little thing for Lawson, nor any other form of discipline we have ever tried. He is his own little self and we can't touch it. I'm sure grateful for the sweet phases inbetween the frustrating ones :-)

Amy said...

I don't know what to tell ya. Rhett is the least of my problems. Its my girls that give me fits. I think they schemed together and decided to take shifts and then sometimes they double up. ha ha. Good luck and be consistent. Don't let him pull you in to his scheming. I'm a sucker for that for sure.

Brooke said...

Obviously, I should be the one to ask, but I'm not. You know how my boys act most of the time........I really don't have answers for you. My only advice is find more patience. We all need more of it with boys.

Emily said...

If you figure it out, let me know. I have 3 boys and each one is so different when it comes to discipline. I do know that all my boys want to do is wrestle and play ball in the house and it drives me crazy :)

coty said...

I've been grappling with wether or not to comment on this...I too have no solid answers. It IS boy skin. Much of the day I can be heard chirping "use your nice words" "use your nice words"...seemingly to no avail. When you find the answers...cyber em' my way, please.

amity said...

heidi, i love reading your blog (angela always tells me to read your latest posts) and i can so relate to your troubles with your boy. mine is really struggling lately also. i am really hoping it is a phase and that he gets through it soon (before the school calls and tells me it is time to home school. apparently he bloodied a boys nose at school. promise it could be worse.) he goes through this every now and then. all i can say is just love him. be there for him. listen to him talk and try to understand. i should probably listen to my own advice with my sweet little man.